Ways to get over a breakup or divorce?

 

In today's world, it is normal to enter relationships too often too soon. People casually meet and explore each other. They then decide to date and enter into a relationship. Some relationships forge long-lasting bonds, and some end up. Many people take their relationships to marriage. Some of these marriages succeed, and some end up in court. Breakups are quite normal, and everyone goes through the same at least once in their life. And in all the scenarios, one thing is common. Breakup is harsh, painful and often seems to be the end of this world. And it is important to get out of this phase after a breakup as soon as possible. But the big question is that how to get over a breakup? 

 

It is quite normal to feel sad, depressed, angry, and let down after a breakup or a failed relationship. But you have to get out of this for your benefit. And no one will help you come out of it. Only you can help yourself. So if you are heartbroken, and have been a victim of a failed relationship or a divorce, lift yourself up and address the issue head-on. Many people say that it is easier to get over a breakup, but divorce is a different ball game altogether. Divorce is much harsh, draining and leaves deep scars. So how to get over a divorce?

 

The feelings in both breakup and divorce are common. Yes, they may be of varying intensity, and divorce may be harsher. But the coping mechanism is the same. Relationships break for various reasons, and it may be nobody's fault. Often both the people are at fault, or the situation is to be blamed, the outcome is a breakup. So, do not enter into a blame game, or curse each other down. The better way is to sort it out internally and plan a peaceful future-a future that is more promising and peaceful.

 

So let us see how to overcome a breakup or divorce?

 

• Think over what went wrong in your past failed relationships and identify your faults. Make sure not to repeat them in your future relationships. 
• Give yourself some time and spend some time alone. Eat well, sleep well and indulge in your guilty pleasures. But do not shut yourself completely. 
• Make time for your hobbies. If you like gardening take it up, or join online dance classes, or travel. The list is endless. The idea is to keep yourself busy and busy with the things that make you happy. 
• Speak to your family and friends. Identify your support network and spend quality time with them. Share your load with them. The more you share the better you will feel. It is good to enjoy your me-time, but it is equally important to spend some quality time with your support network as well. 
• It is best to avoid drugs and alcohol as they may do more harm than good. They may make you feel better initially but as time passes by, they may give you a bad trip. So it is better to avoid substance abuse and alcoholism at best. 
• Try to maintain a good sleep cycle. Sleep is a very good coping mechanism. But this does not mean taking sleeping pills to induce sleep. Sleep that comes naturally, helps in healing. 
• Try to do regular workouts. Regular workouts not only keep you physically fit, but it also has several mental benefits. Workouts release happy hormones and make you make good at the end. 
• Do not haste into entering another relationship. You should take your time. People often enter a rebound relationship after a breakup and such relationships often fail. 
• Social media detox is something that comes in very handy. After a breakup, unfollow or unfriend people you do not wish to see anymore. Do not be tempted to stalk your ex and the best way is to avoid falling into such a trap is to go for a social media detox or social media cleanse. 
• It is always a good idea to be grateful for what you have and have an abundance mindset. Whatever is gone is your past now. But you still have many things that many other do not have. Always count your blessings.
• Last but not least find a purpose in life and attach some meaning to it. For example, do charity or volunteering work or get into spirituality. All your worries and concerns will be automatically addressed as you pave a way for positive things in your life. 

 

And the best tip is to forgive yourself. Whatever happened, happened for a reason. Some things are not meant for you. And whatever is meant for you will always be with you. Feel positive and confident in yourself, and do not rush into things. Always remember time is the biggest healer and time answers the best. It is time to let go of the past and move on.