Why should you be putting yourself first

 

Ask yourself if you put yourself first before anything else. Ask yourself if you feel bad when you say no. Ask yourself if it is selfish to make yourself a priority. And you will know what I am talking about.

 

We are wired to put others before ourselves, as this is what society has taught us. While putting others before yourself is good, putting yourself before others is even better.

 

We are all taught to live by the mantra of putting others first. But if you do it as a habit by overlooking your own needs and desires, this can lead to resentment and anger. This mindset can lead to a lot of frustration. You may feel trapped and may feel unhappy. It can be really tough to get going when your own tanks are running empty because you have ignored your needs, desires, and internal voices to put yourself first. 

 

So, we do our daily life chores, attend to others' needs, put ourselves last, and ultimately neglect the most important person in our lives. And that's you! 

 

But why do we keep doing this? 

 

The main reason is the faulty belief system that teaches us to put others first. And it is especially true for women who have been raised for ages with this mindset. They sacrifice their lives, families, friends, jobs, and whatnot for marriage and children. And the male member roams free without an iota of guilt.

 

Regardless of the gender at hand, you need to ask yourself, how do you feel? And if you are tired of attending to others' demands and needs, it is time to put a full stop to it. It is time to learn to say no. 

 

When you keep pushing yourself too hard and live a life to please others, you ignore your own desires. And ultimately, you run dry of your energy. Putting too much emphasis on people and their happiness never works as people and their needs never end. The more your give, the more they expect. There is no end to it. And when you give them a lot of your time and energy, and then you say no, they get angry and make you feel guilty! 

 

Wait! You did a lot for them many times. But now you have decided tio take a pause, and they are getting angry? Yes, this is what you get. When you start putting yourself first, people do not take it positively. They may say a few things like:

 

• you are selfish 
• you were never like this
• you have changed
• you are not doing a good thing
• you do not deserve my friendship and much more

 

There would be a lot of complaints. In fact, many of your close ones will even leave or guilt-trap you. So, you did a lot of things for them in the past and gave them your time, energy, and resources just to see this?

 

It can be really disappointing to see such a thing coming from people you love. 

 

But there would be people who loved you and wanted the best for you. These people would be more than happy to support you when you take a stand for yourself and your well-being by putting yourself first. These people would be your bedrock-solid friends and family. 

 

So, it is always good to put yourself first before anyone else. Ultimately you have to spend most of your time with the most crucial person in your life.