5 Signs It's Time To Let Go of A Relationship

 

We all want to have an intimate, meaningful, and authentic relationship with our partners that is not only fulfilling but also respectful. But as you all know, love relationships are complicated and messy. They can sometimes be very fulfilling, but at times they can even become toxic. 

 

We often clean up the mess and make sacrifices and compromises to make the relationships work. But sometimes, relationships reach a point beyond repair; therefore, we need to learn to let go of them.

 

Many of you want to work it out! But working it out can also mean suppressing your true feelings, making undue adjustments, and sacrificing and tolerating things you do not fundamentally agree with. 

It causes dissonance within you and puts you in a dilemma to choose between yourself or your relationship. And it puts you into pain, conflicts, and differences with yourself. 

 

When you are inauthentic to yourself, you cause yourself to suffer, and this pain can easily outweigh your desire to "work it out" later in life. 

 

So how to know when to cut the cords and move on? How to end your relationship is one thing but knowing when to let go of a relationship is another. It is the most challenging thing to spot. 

 

So, let's go and understand some of the best signs that hint toward moving on. 

 

5 signs it's time to let go of a relationship?

 

Letting go of someone you love can be heartbreaking and discouraging. But holding back onto a relationship that has become abusive, toxic, disrespectful, or holds you back from being your authentic self can be more dangerous to your well-being. 

 

Therefore, watch out for these signs and understand that sometimes it is wiser to let go than to hold on. 

 

So, how to know when to let go of a relationship? Here are the five significant signs you should watch out for. 

 

1. Emotional and physical abuse

 

If you feel your relationship has become verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive, there is no point in staying back. If you remain in such relationships even after this, it can worsen and snatch away the minutest self-esteem you are left with. As long as you stay in an abusive relationship, you give the abuser more reasons to abuse you. 

 

2.     Consistent dishonesty and deceit

 

Most love relationships can survive a few occasional incidences of lying or dishonesty, and some can survive these odds with counselling and healing. But consistent dishonesty, cheating, and disloyalty suggest some more profound values, character, and integrity issues that can never be changed. 

 

So, if you have confronted your partner often but to no avail, it is time to move on. Repeated deceit will only take away your respect for your partner and yourself. 

 

3.     Emotional unavailability

 

If your partner is always emotionally distant, unavailable, and not ready to communicate whenever you need them, you need to set it right. Your partner should make time for you and your needs, communicate openly, and be emotionally available to you. But if you have raised this concern many times and yet there is no change in your partner's behaviour, it is time for you to find someone in your life willing to offer more. 

 

One-sided efforts or relationships seldom work, and in all probability, if you feel you are one pushing this relationship and not even acknowledged for the same, please move on. 

 

4.     Unrealistic expectations

 

It is usual for people to have expectations, and in relationships, there are a lot of expectations. Your partner may have expectations from you, and sometimes you can't honour them. 

 

Perhaps they want you to do everything as per their choice, such as raising children, your political or religious views, managing your home, and so on. Some people also have expectations that you spend more time with them or be available for them all the time. 

 

But if you find these things are not acceptable and you are compromising on your desires and well-being, maybe it is time to rethink the relationship you are holding onto. 

 

5.     Loss of love and affection

 

Do you feel that either your lover or you have fallen out of love, and there is only little affection or intimacy left? Love is a significant factor that keeps the relationship alive, and when it goes missing, the foundation of your relationship becomes weak. If that's the case, your connection can wither away with time sooner or later.

 

Maybe you are staying together, are in a relationship of convenience, or because you do not want your children to suffer. But if the romantic element has gone missing, it is time for you to revive your relationship or let it go, whatever works! 

 

So, therapy can work for you if you are married or in a relationship for a long period. But if you are dating and see your love dimming with time, you should embrace the truth and move on. 

 

So, there are a few undeniable signs that give you a hint that it is time to move on.