How to deal with inconsistent people in life

 

We live in a world where there is no shortage of inconsistent people in our lives. We can meet inconsistent people everywhere and most often in our personal relationships. Inconsistent people who are a part of our close circles are the most dangerous ones as they can cause a lot of damage to us. 

 

Inconsistency in relationships is never good. But they are unavoidable too. Inconsistent behaviour is not a good sign in any relationship as it can keep you confused. When you meet people, make them your friends or start dating them, you expect them to be consistent with you with their actions and behaviours so that you can rely on them. And it is what we least expect from our relationships. But some people, even after you give them everything, are not consistent with you and keep you confused.

 

Take, for example, you meet a friend of yours from the gym in the mall and she ignores you to your dismay. You will not like this behaviour and you will be confused if it was intentional or by mistake. If it was by mistake, you can give the person some benefit of the doubt, but if it was intentional you will feel insulted. So what to do now? How do you deal with inconsistent people in life? 

 

You can do four things to deal with an inconsistent person and free yourself of all the doubt.

 

1. If your friend is ignoring you out of a sudden and you feel her behaviour is inconsistent off lately, you should ask them directly what's this all about. Tell them that you have noticed that sometimes they are good with you and sometimes they are ignoring you and it is giving you a mixed signal. When you tell them that you are noticing this behaviour they will understand that you will not accept it anymore. So, they will try not to repeat with you if they want to keep your friendship alive. 
2. If your friend ignores your complaint regarding their inconsistent behaviour and continues to do so, it means they are intentionally doing it and that you need to be cautious of them. There could be various reasons behind their consistent behaviour, and you would never know of them until you confront them and they chose to tell you the truth. So, it would be better if you do not stretch yourself with finding the reason but focus on moving on with your life. Consistent people will never give you the security and confidence to move forward with them. 
3. The third thing is to ask them that you are not liking their inconsistent behaviour and that you need your clarity now. You have to tell them that it is not okay and you need to take a call. So, when you give them an ultimatum, they will either become consistent or continue to be inconsistent. But in any case, you will know the reality.
4. And finally, you should deal with an inconsistent person by moving on. When you decide to move on, you take a stand for yourself. And it is the best thing you can do as it will give a strong signal to others that you will not tolerate this kind of deviated behaviour. 

 

So, these are four ways you can deal with inconsistent people in life and make a positive space for yourself and your well-being. Inconsistent people will not add any value to your life. So, it is better to let them go.