be happy in simple steps

 

All of us have a past and that past is not always glorious. Some of our past even traumatizing and obsessing. The problem is not that we have a traumatic past. The problem is that we choose to stay back in that phase of life and not focus on our present and future. And as a result, our past start to dictate our present and future. A clear outcome is that we are not happy. So how to let go of the past and be happy?

 

When you dig through your life, you may uncover reasons why you are unable to move on. Yes, you can't let go of the past even when you know that yesterday was your past, and you should let it go. You understand that to lead a fulfilling life, you need to put it behind you and take steps to move forward. 

 

But it is easier than done. It sounds easy to tough to implement. Even with this knowledge, it takes a lot to implement things in your life, that will help you move on and find happiness. So, let us try to find out why it is tough to move on. 

 

The main reason is that our past defines 90 per cent of who we are today in our present. If we let go of our past, we won't be able to be the same person. And it is what we all feel. Giving up on the past may mean that we are giving up on our roots or our real selves. When you think of giving up your past, you feel like you are discarding a part of yourself. And no one likes that. So the reason is your psychology that is keeping you away from moving on from your past. 

 

We as humans, do not like change. We all resist change or despise change, and it is also a reason we find moving on a tough job. 

 

So, now we understand why it is tough to move on from your past, let us try and understand how to let go of the past and be happy?

 

1. Understand you emotions

 

If you want to move on from your past, it is important to unfold your inner emotions and understand them rather than suppressing them. Once you stop ignoring your emotions, you understand them, become ready to face them, and finally decide to close that chapter of your life. So when you decide to close the unresolved emotions from your past, you take charge of your emotions, and ultimately learn to move on. 

 

2.     Do not let negative emotions rule your state of being

 

If you let negative thoughts rule your emotions, it will push you further down the drain. And if you often sulk and brood on negative thoughts, you get into a vicious circle, that will never allow you to move on into a positive space. So, if you want to let go of the past and be happy, you need to let your negativity wither away and let positivity seep in. 

 

3.     Learn from your past

 

Always turn around the table and use your past to make it a learning experience. This way you can learn from your past and implement the learnings in your present. Learning is a positive emotion and is a positive way of dealing with past failures, traumas and experiences. So, if you apply your learnings to your past, you will realise that the old experiences are of no use anymore and eventually you free yourself from the clutches of your past. 

 

4.     Live in your present

 

When you live in your present, you focus on your present and future. You also make sure to keep yourself occupied and happy while taking ahead one step at a time. This is one of the best ways to tackle the problems of not being able to move on from your past. 

 

5.     Learn more about yourself

 

It is one of the answers to the question:  how to let go of the past and be happy? The reason is that the more you know about yourself, your strengths, likes, and dislikes, the better you are giving yourself these things. So learning more about yourself will give you ample reasons to feed yourself those things rather than obsessing over your past. 

 

So these are the things that will make you move on, help your let go and find back your happiness.