Signs you are Being True To Yourself and Living a lie

 What could be more worst feeling or situation than convincing yourself of a thing in your mind, that you know is a lie in your heart? When you commit yourself to things that you do not want to do by convincing your mind, you are living a lie. It is because your mind and heart are not in consonance. And whenever you live a life to please others, doing things they want you to do not because you want to do them but because they expect you to do so, it is a strong indication that you are not being true to yourself. 

 And when it is the way live our lives, we struggle on a daily basis to keep ourselves happy and content. Deep down we know that we are going against our hearts, but we find it difficult to break this monotony. A lot of times, we often want to do things to explore our curiosity, but we are not able to do so, as our parent wants us to do something else. Also, many times, we face situations, where we end up doing things that our heart, does not conform to. And it is exactly what I am referring to. These situations reflect a state where we not being true to ourselves and it is not a good practice.

So you have to ask yourself, who is the person you want to please the most? Is it you or someone else, and in all probability, you will want to please yourself over anyone else? When you put yourself first and prioritise your mental well-being, you are staying true to yourself. 

 So what are other signs that indicate you are being true to yourself?

 

1. You are clear, upfront and honest about your needs, choices and wants. You understand yourself on a deeper note and understand what you want to achieve. You are not shy to put those things clear and loud to the other person. 
2. You know when you want to commit and when you want to say no. In fact, one of the signs of being true to yourself is that you have learnt to say no. It also means that you do not say yes when you want to say no and are pretty comfortable denying a request if it conflicts with your thoughts, plans, actions and beliefs. 
3. You are okay when some people like you and some do not like you, and you are pretty much sorted with that. You know that you are focussing on your own needs and so you need to sacrifice a lot of things. Some people may even go against you and bad-mouth you. But it doesn't affect you as a person. 
4. You focus more on your fundamental values, thoughts and beliefs than what people might think of you. What society thinks of you is of least concern to you, and you lease care about those thoughts. 
5. You only do things that you deem fit and right without seeking people's approval. And you are clear and smart enough to make a distinction between what is good for you and what is not. 
6. You are not afraid to change your course of action after taking a decision when you feel that you are not going in the right direction regardless of what people think and say. 
7. You allow yourself to evolve by learning new things and doing things that always interest you. Many people may say, that you are ignoring them when you devote your time to yourself, but you are very clear about what you want and what you do not. 
8. You are very clear about the things that conflict with your innermost thoughts and value system. You have done a lot of introspection, and you know what you want and what you don't. Also, these conflicting thoughts do not bother you as you know how to put a full stop to those conflicting thoughts by taking the right action, at the right time and with the right set of people around. 

 

So, these are the signs that indicate that you are being true to yourself.