They say happiness is a choice, and
you can choose to be happy. But the daunting question is how? How can I choose
happiness when everything seems to be so unfavourable? Yes, things may not be
in your favour, but nothing is permanent. You will surpass this too! But how
about the time you are wasting brooding over your past, getting anxious every
now and then, and destroying your present? It is all not worth it, especially
when happiness is a choice and you can
choose to be happy by choosing happiness every day. So how to choose happiness
and find your own zen? Let's decode it!
How to choose happiness daily
consciously?
- Let
go of the past
To choose happiness, you need to let
go of the past. You should free yourself from your troublesome memories,
relationships and situations and live in the present to enjoy it and make the
most of your life. As they say, by gones are by gones, so why ruin your present
with those traumatizing events in the past that have the potential to ruin your
present and even your current relationships? It is certainly not worth holding
on to!
As you let go of the past, you make
peace with yourself and your life. And it is a precursor for happiness to seep
in. So, let of the past and choose your happiness over anything else. Read more
to know how to let go of
the past.
2.
Work on your dissonances
Yes, everyone has some dissonances in
life that limit their potential to be happy, and you are no exception. All you
need is to identify the root cause of your conflicts, accept your shortcomings,
and then work upon eliminating them from your life. And when you will do so,
you will invariably eradicate many dissonances, achieve consonance and a state
of equilibrium. These things will make you more peaceful and easy. Ultimately
you will find yourself choosing your happiness by resolving your
conflicts.
3.
Be grateful and count on your blessings
You are more blessed in life than
most of the people around you. But you still spend a substantial amount of your
time whining, chasing materialistic things and comparing yourself to others.
You have to give this habit of yours and instead be thankful for all you have
in life. Many people do not have even access to that. One way is to practise
gratitude towards the creator, the life and the people around you. Gratitude
often leads to an abundance mindset. It helps you break the habit of making
comparisons. And as you learn how to stop
comparing yourself to others, you become more confident, positive
and self-accepting. These things contribute significantly to your overall state
of happiness.
4.
Do not link happiness with money
A lot of people ask: does happiness
buy money? It does to a certain extent till your basic needs are met, and a
certain level of wealth makes you happy. And the absence of basic wealth will
cause multiple problems to arise and render unhappiness in return. But beyond a
point, money doesn't contribute to happiness. If money was directly
proportional to happiness, all the rich and elite people must be the happiest
lot. But it is not the case in reality. Poor people are also happy as they know
that happiness is a choice. So to make happiness a choice, stop
linking happiness with money, material possession and people. Your happiness is
independent of all three parameters. It is just you have to think about it and
work towards things that will fetch your real happiness.
5.
Pursue your interests
Yes, if money doesn't fetch you
happiness, what is it then? It is about doing things that make you happy and
that you want to do. If you like travelling, do that. If you like to play
sports, do that. If you like to cook, do that. Make time for yourself and your
passion, and put your creative energies there. Once you listen to yourself, you
develop a meaningful relationship with yourself. You heard it right! If you are
not aware of your relationship
with yourself, you can never be happy. And when you become aware of it, you start a
journey towards finding happiness.
6.
Keep yourself healthy
Health is a precursor to happiness,
and therefore, you should take care of your mental, emotional, physical, and
spiritual health. A healthy mind and body lead to eternal happiness.
7.
Do not please others
Many people spend a large chunk of
their lifetime pleasing others only to realise that they have been doing the
same at the expense of their own happiness. But is it worth it? So learn to say no, and please
yourself first before anything else. Once you do so, you become more effective
in your present and allow happiness to enter your life. And that too
effortlessly, no matter what your present situation is.
These are the few strategies that
work for me and help me achieve a state of peace, tranquillity and happiness.
Hope these tips will help you find your own happiness too.
Suggested reading: Happiness is a
choice- How to choose it every day?
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